Well hellllooooooooooo there!
Is anyone there?
I feel like it’s been ages since i’ve had time to sit and write on the blog.
However, something has been weighing on me & I’d thought I’d share.
Let’s talk about,
CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE:
you know, the people you spend all your time with,trust, love, share experiences with- YOU BECOME LIKE THESE PEOPLE WHETHER YOU KNOW IT OR NOT.
I want you to think of the 5 closest people you have in your life right now. You have them in your head? Ok good. Now think of them and their lives- what do they have going for them? How do they treat people? How do they treat themselves?
You become like the people you spend the most time with.
If that doesn’t motivate you to have some badasses around ya I’m not sure what will.
your influence should inspire you to be the person you want to be.
Now hey, I am NOT saying to go break up with all your friends right this second. I just want to pass along to you that it is important for you to carefully choose who you hang with. If your ‘friends’ BRING YOU DOWN in any way, shape or form maybe it’s just time to spend less & less time with them so THEY can grow and YOU can grow as well. Right? It’s a win, win really.
So where is this coming from?
My own experience of course. I am notttttttt perfect when it comes to picking my own circle of influence. I say “picking” because we honestly choose who we meet and spend time with just by how we are thinking and spending our own time.
& I’d really like to consider myself a positive and motivating person that only attracts the same type of people in my life but I’d be lying. Again, NOT PERFECT!
My judge of character radar has been OFFFFFFF before lemme tell ya!
The good thing is, I have no problem cutting people off. It’s just because my life means THAT much to me.
I just don’t have time for people that bring me down.
I’m opening up to you because it’s OKAY.
Life is all about learning & growing. I LOVE IT.
Mistakes are everything! People come and go in our lives for PERFECT reasons. Bye Felicia!
Now I am the type of person who has had the same friends my whole life. I’m seriously NOT kidding. I have had the same friends since 2nd grade. Rare right? I’ve always thought it was weird when people would have new bffs every month in high school because my group of friends was SO steady.
I got lucky. Those same friends still motivate the crap out of me. Love ya’ll!
However, we leave school and go out into the ‘real world’ and meet LOTS of new people.
& at first it’s like a HONEYMOON stage!
Ahhh, the honeymoon stage, you know- when everything seems perfect and you think this person is the BEES KNEES & you just love them so much & nothing could ever possibly go wrong. HA!
I’m the WORST at this. New friends are my favorite and I just love and trust them soooo much very quickly. Anyone else?
I’m a people LOVERRR. ❤
Alllllways looking for the best in everyone, overlooking the red flags!
I forget to look at them and analyze the situation as a whole- is this person benefiting me in multiple ways?
Now before you think that question is a little egocentric,
it’s YOUR LIFE. You only get one shot, it’s okay to be picky on who you spend a lot of your time with.
THE GOOD FRIEND INTERVIEW-
Do they inspire you?
Do they motivate you?
How do they talk about their other friends?
How do they talk about themselves?
What does your family/other friends think of them?
Are they influencing you to do things or say things you typically wouldn’t?
Now whyyyy does this even matter?
Because you are going to become like this person.
& you KNOW the person you want to become.
( & if you don’t know who you want to become, is it like them? Or not? )
SO BE THAT PERSON.
Be around the people you want to be like. ❤
BFFS – Mentors – Family – Friends
Your circle of influence is
E V E R Y T H I N G.
I’d rather have no friends, than ones who take me off track and pull me down.
Especially at young ages, we are figuring life out, shooting for our goals, doing our best as is. We don’t have time to be pulled down or off track in any way. Nobody has time for that!
I’d love to hear your thoughts!